It is inevitable that others will hurt or offend you. When you are harmed by another, negative emotions such as anger, resentment or disappointment arises. Later, you may carry a grudge or seek revenge. Doing so means you continue to suffer the pain of the offence long after it is
Generosity is the willingness to part with something of value for the benefit of others. It could be a donation of cash, food, clothes or other personal belongings. It could also be the giving of time and talents. Yet, true generosity is rare. Some people give because their belongings are
True progress cannot be made unless we know the truth. To see the truth, you need to break down your illusions that protect or inflate your ego. The ego is a mental construction of your identity. Illusions are beliefs and stories created based on your ego's desires and
Major life crises or traumatic events are inevitable for some, such as divorce, disease, or death. In crises, people lose livelihoods, homes, identities, loved ones, and more. People suffer deep emotional pains and psychological distress. These crises can rip your world apart, tear down your beliefs, and force you to
Everyone covers. Covering is the act of > downplaying those aspects of their identities that are based on race, gender, sexual orientation, religion, and disability, in an effort to "fit in" and get ahead professionally and personally. Kenji Yoshino [Link%20to%20Covering:%20The%20Hidden%20Assault] Nobody likes their
Boundaries are limits you set for yourself, and they protect you. When someone trespasses into your private space, you are alerted to danger and might be forced to do things you'd rather not. Or at the very least, feel very uncomfortable. Not everyone is considerate, empathetic or able
You form an impression of someone when you meet them for the first time. First impressions can be good or bad. Some are skilled at making good first impressions. Yet, in subsequent meetings, you begin to see insincerity. Others may do poorly with first impressions. As time passes, the relationship
The outer world is a reflection of your inner world. What you see in the world is what is going on inside you. If you see hatred, there is hatred within. If you see love, there is love within. Likewise, when love, happiness, hatred, prejudice and many others exist within
Presence is when your body, mind, and heart are aware and focused on the present moment. The body is not restless nor eager to go elsewhere. The mind does not wander to the future nor ruminate about the past. The heart does not fear nor reject what is in front
Ghosting is digital disappearance, silence on the chat. It is a phenomenon that evolved alongside online dating and remote working. Ghosting is the easy way out. No justification is needed. No awkward conversation. No need to deal with uncomfortable emotions. Remain silent till they eventually get it. It is normal
Every master dedicates years to developing, refining and perfecting their craft. Becoming a master takes a purposeful and methodical approach to practising their selected craft or skill, also called Deliberate Practice. Deliberate practice is not simply mindless repetition. Masters deconstruct their discipline into smaller aspects, and each aspect is improved
You meet your daughter's boyfriend for the first time. You noticed he didn't help with house chores or give "orders" to your daughter. You form a poor impression of him. He's lazy and demanding. Afterwards, every action or non-action proves your belief.